Tuesday, April 29, 2008
I haven't felt much like...
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Thursday, April 24, 2008
TFT: (Thoughts for Thursday)
This is only my 2nd attempt at Thoughts for Thursday, but this topic just came up today so I figured it would be worth throwing it out there.
*Daycare* :-)
I know this topic is something a lot of parents have to think about and consider for their children when they return to work.
I was talking to my friend today (Hi Polly) who is starting a new job. She is switching from 3rd shift to 1st, in an effort to normalize her time with her family so she is putting her 2 youngest (9months and 3 yrs) into daycare. We got talking about a blog that I had read about a family where their son had been shook by a babysitter they trusted. Then there are other horror stories that make it to the media, you know the one where the "nanny" is throwing the twin babies around carelessly and mishandling them. I am disgusted with this behavior just as much as the next person.
When it came time for us to choose a daycare for Carson I went with a place where I felt very comfortable. I didn't need to do a lot of seaching because I knew what HIS needs were. With our older daughter (kenedey now 11 yrs old) it was tough to find the "right" daycare for her. She had very different needs. By that I mean she was more emotional (yes even very young) she needed snuggled A LOT, she was pretty demanding etc. Where Carson was just active, we knew he needed to have a stimulating environment and also a lot of structure.
The thoughts I am interesting in what you all think is this: When choosing daycare: do you get a "feeling" that the place is right for your child? How would you feel if your provider said to you, "I am sorry I don't feel like your child is a good fit for here"? What is most important to you when you are looking for childcare... family, friends, environment, schedule, or what?
I am just curious about this. Polly and I were talking about some of the terrible things that happen in daycares/home daycares and we were just like.... why can't a provider just say, "Look, your child cries too much for me, or your child doesn't fit, or something like that.... before/rather than hurting or being mean to a child.
NOW BELIEVE ME... I know there are wonderful people out there who do daycare. Lots of them really. I have been fortunate to have had wonderful people care for my children while I worked outside the home, so please do not think I am ripping on daycares by ANY means. I am actually on the flip side now where I watch a friends children and I absolutely love these kids like they are my own. However, if that weren't the case. I can honestly say, I WOULD let a parent know if it wasn't a "good fit". I have thought about opening my home to more kids, however, I think it would be more of a chore then, rather than something I enjoy. I don't ever want to have kids I am responsible for unhappy in my care. It's really important to me since my kids are also here. If the kid I am watching is unhappy... so am I... and for my kids, an unhappy mommy is a crappy mommy! That's just my take! Shoot some of your thoughts!
Other TFT blogs: ( I know I read more today... do you think I can find them... ugh, sorry if I forgot you, leave me a message so I can add you to the list!)
Heather
Kim
Michelle
Jenny
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Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Keeping Busy
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Monday, April 21, 2008
Our little athlete!
Below: the assistant coach helping Kenedey get "in form" and pumping her up while giving the pitcher a hard time! This really helped Ken to loosen up and not be so nervous while up to bat!
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I have to tell you, I have been feeling a bit depressed as of lately. I haven't even been able to say this until tonight, mostly because if I speak it, then it feels true. I think a lot of it had to do with the weather, getting into a routine that works, and just adjusting to all the upcoming change. Things around our house have been stressful. The usual life demands and of course throw some crap on top of that and things get hairy.
Those of you who know me, you know that I am a pretty deep person. I won't apologize for that, it's who I am, but I must admit it sucks sometimes because unless I am feeling inspired, having a conversation that gets me deep down, or feeling inspired... then I really don't feel like me.
I need to read more and lately I have just been able to read house books. Reading makes me think, something I really like to do.
I was working at the school bookfair on Saturday and I picked up a Maria Shriver book. I LOVE her and I like how inspiring/real/touching her writings are. I think if I could get to know a celebrity, it would be her. I used to watch Dr. Phil to feel inspired or make a step to better myself. Also the show "Starting over". Lately, Dr. Phil just sucks. I don't know if I am just "over it" or if his subjects are just boring or what, but I am just not "feelin' it".
I was looking through the options of Maria Shriver's books and I came across this in a excerpt spot from her book: "Who am I? What do I believe in? What am I grateful for? What do I want my life to stand for?"
These are the kinds of questions I want to get back to, so I am off to order one of her books! I like that I can feel a lot more like myself again. It's probably all going to fall apart when the house stuff gets rolling, but for now........... (sorry to those of you who aren't all into "feelings")!!! Believe me this is a good thing for me!
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Sunday, April 20, 2008
Warning: I am feeling chatty... long post!
My blog has been a bit sterile lately.
I have been so house focused that I haven't spent much time talking about what is going on with "us"!
I am using this post to talk about Carson (with sprinkles of Kenedey :-) too), I know all of you (meaning family) get a kick out of me struggling so much with managing my SON!!! Yeah this post will not be anything out of the ordinary, but let me just say we are coming off from a long weekend of his whining and complaining... NOT good times.
Ok, we love this kid, he is spirited, fun, loving (sometimes), and a "true boy". But.... we need some help!!!!
Whining is one of the biggest problems as of lately. I know we are well on our way to terrible twos. Jason and I were having a conversation in the car today about how important to us it is that our kids are respectful of first themselves and then obviously others. Disrespect is just something we are not willing to tolerate. Now the respecting himself will come in time, but right now he is NOT Mr. nice guy to others. When I ask him to say hello to people he has just been doing nothing. I will admit sometimes he is friendly, but the majority of the time he's really not. This is almost painful for me to write because that's how important this subject is to me. I want to teach him to say hello, shake hands with people, and a friendly goodbye. Now the goodbye part is fine. He will blow kisses, kiss family, wave, and very nicely say, "bye bye", maybe even an "Love you". My inlaws met us at the house the other day to look at it and he was downright rude to them. Usually he is crazy about his Nana, but nope he was just rude. We went to visit a friend the other night, someone who is very important to me (hi Ellen) and he again was a royal pain. Took dirt out of a plant and threw it on her deck, didn't say hello, took off to an area of the house where I asked him not to go. Just defiant. I HAVE to nip this in the butt quickly.
I want to add a little history here for my readers who don't really "know us". Our daughter is seriously almost the perfect child. She has always been friendly to stangers, very respectful of others and their property, all the things you would expect from a good kid. Well I always felt like, we are tough on her and expect these types of things from her and that must be why we have such a "good kid". Well, I am now a hypocrite. I have judged other parents and been annoyed with them when their kids are awful. I now can truly say I understand that despite some parents honest and true efforts some rotten kids aren't that way entirely just because of their parents. Carson isn't rotten don't get me wrong. It's just tough to enjoy him. Also don't get me wrong I do realize some parents have very ineffective tools and are not consistent with discipline.
We went to Menard's today. He was SUCH A PAIN. He didn't want to sit in the cart. He threw himself on the floor in the carpet area, screamed, whined and it NEVER.STOPPED. The service sucked and we were trying to deal with him so we just left and went to the much better serviced Home Depot. At Home Depot he wanted to play in the automatic doors, ok only natural, we let him experience that for a while and then said ok, all done, lets go. Well again this was a reason for a fit. More whining. I had to pick him up and fight him kicking and pinching all the way to the car. I threw him in his seat, strapped him in and that ended that. He was better at Home Depot. They had a race car cart that he could "drive", but that only lasted for awhile. After he napped today he was such a brat, he just walked around and whined. We were even outside playing and chasing him and playing with other kids and whaddya know... Carson was whining!
I took him to the store with me this evening and he whined all the way there, and all the way back. He doesn't want to ever get in the car, and even sometimes doesn't want to get out. Ugh.
There are two thing I can do when I am at my limit that usually at least gives me a break. I can put him in his bed and just make him sit there until his tude' changes or sometimes when he is really whiny for no reason if I put on a movie that he really likes he will sit and watch that. As far as actual discipline goes, we have found that setting in "time out" does work. I have to work VERY hard to keep him there. He will stay for Jason, but Jason has to actually yell at him to get him to stay. I don't have that rough, stern, mean voice. I am working on that. Usually mine just makes him whine more. I have really considered spanking. I can't even believe that because I spanked Kenedey MAYBE 2 times ever. My rule is and will always be, if I am spanking because I am angry... I WONT do it. If I am doing it because I think it could get his attention and produce worthy results then I don't mind trying it. I think he is at the age where he gets the cause and effect thing so I think if I have to resort to that (i'd rather not) he could maybe understand that as a consequence. Yelling is out of the question for me. I am not a yeller and don't want to start being one. I want to have effective tools I can use when we are at other people's home and I am loosing control of my two year old.... THAT WORK.
I know this kid needs structure and stimulation and I try very hard to accomadate those needs. We do fun things with him and don't expect him to behave perfectly by any means but I would like things to at least improve. I think I might start thinking about running away if they don't and I just wouldn't do that to my kids! So I guess the alternative is we must try to resolve some of this! Any of you have any suggestions you might offer? I am off to look on the net for some solutions to decrease whining and increase effective discipline!!!
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Thursday, April 17, 2008
more house thoughts...
I am getting to the point where I can't sleep because of this house thing. I woke up at like 3am because I heard the garbage truck and had to go find out why in the heck at that hour he needs to be SO loud. I don't think he cared that I stood in the window and cursed his noisyness! I went back to bed and laid there for like the next few hours until Jason got up and thought about house stuff. I think what got me worked up was before I went to bed I realized we only have 9 more days til' closing and then the serious work begins. We have TONS to do. But I am really getting excited about watching the changes happen.
Today I have been thinking about the bathrooms. The 1/2 bath down stairs in just off the entryway hall. It has a vanity and toilet and mirrow and some REALLY ugly wallpaper. My mother-in-law and father-in-law came out last night to look at the floor to see if they could help with that. We are going to go ahead and cover the living room and formal dining area with carpet. We are going with the same carpet throughout. (2 of the bedrooms, the stairway, hallway upstairs, and the living room/dining area) Carson's room will remain hardwood, I think I will just get him a big rug for his floor.
Anyway... back to the bathrooms; I think I like this color, I really want something bright, simple, clean feel for the 1/2 bath. I think I like this color... what to do you think?
http://www.potterybarn.com/products/p10807/index.cfm?pkey=gTHMBMB ( I really like the orange accents with this one.
also thought about this, but I think I want brighter!
http://www.potterybarn.com/products/p9861/index.cfm?pkey=gTHMBMA
Now the entry way: The bottom wall has wainescoting (sp?) I intend to leave that natural wood color, and maybe paint the walls just a cream to a light beige color. Just go basic in this area. It will have wood laminate floors. Is going cream in this area and up the stairs just too boring? It's a hallway, stairway, and then leading to the upstairs hallway. I should invest in paint... we are going to need SO MUCH paint! The good news is, my mother in law did say last night that she would come help with wall paper removal... FANTASTIC. She said, no painting or anything like that, but she will take it down. She has a steamer. Kathy (my cousin, Kayla's mom) said that she would also help with it and if we need to do texturizing (mainly in the upstairs hallway, and staircase) that she knew how to do that. I will for sure be needed help there.
I don't think I have updated that we had the inspection this week. The main thing they said, was the furnace should be replaced. He said it has a hole/rust in the heat exchanger. Also the hot water heater, and the windows should also be replaced. The good news is... the roof is in good condition and was done sometime within the last 5 years. He said it does look really good. Yeah!!! I was really upset about the furnace at first, but then I got thinking about it and we don't have central air right now, and will want it. So, this gives us an opportunity to go ahead with that... Plus at least we know it's safe/new. Now I just sit and wait for estimates... good times. Wish me luck and rest too! I can't go without sleep for very long! LOL
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Monday, April 14, 2008
fun stuff
If you live anywhere near me you have to check out the website: yahoo groups: Jackson freecycle
I am now enjoying garage sales from my internet! I love to see what others junk can be other treasures. This morning there was one on there for a 7 person hot tub in very good working condition.. Had we been in the new house by now I would have hot footed it over and picked that sucker up!
I went today to Columbia Interiors and picked up some flooring and carpeting samples. I am so bad about making decisions like this so wish me luck. I think we are going to go with a wood laminate floor for the foyer, hallway, kitchen, and breakfast nook. Just not sure which shade of wood to go with. The carpet I am trying to debate is the "shag" stuff. I found one I like that is like a sand color I think it's called beachside and another is called highlights. I'll let you know what I decide. This carpet is "green"/eco friendly. It is supposed to be made from recycled pop bottles and stuff like that! It's not the softest of the shag like carpets, but it is very nice. It's only $3.40/ sq foot... is that a deal? I have no idea. The others I like that were REALLY soft were about $5.00/ sq ft. and more. but the look was comparable.
Have any of you out there put "shag" like in your homes? If so how did it wear? I am not so worried about the bedrooms and stuff, but more about the hallway and stairs where it will be going.
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Sunday, April 13, 2008
Weekend MIA
I know I have been MIA, it's a busy time for us with the house and everything else too. So sorry I have been gone. I just haven't felt like I wanted to blog either, so that doesn't help. Hi mom! I know you have been waiting for me to blog!
Pretty much normal week last week. It got nice one day, the bank therometer in town said 77 degrees. I was shocked and so excited... NOW TODAY, I think the high was probably 47 degrees and friggin' snow. Ugh. I hate Michigan.
By Wed. its supposed to be above 60 and sunny again. Kenedey's 1st softball practice was rescheduled to Wed, because Friday night we had tornado warnings. We picked up some softball gear for her the other day. She got some cleats, a new pink bat, a new glove and 2 softballs. I know NOTHING about softball. Her friend Maddie is very good at softball so they have been playing at school and Maddie taught her how to pitch. I am amazed because she pitched to me a few times and her aim/accuracy was awesome. Jason worked with her on holding the bat properly and she was great at that. I am so excited for her to learn something new that hopefully she will really enjoy. I know she will like it a lot.
On Sat. I went to a 10 hour crop and got out for a whole 10 hours no kids, no interupptions and it was GREAT! I could get used to that! Jessi, Kayla and I all went together. It was a really small crop put on by Kaleidoscope. We all concurred that we prefer these smaller crops versus the huge ones. They are always so much fun. I always meet such neat people with similar interests, which is another reason why I so love going to crops. I got a whole whopping 5 pages done. I spent all of Friday evening trying to organize and downsize all the stuff I had to take with me. It's so hard for me to do because I don't get inspired until I actually sit down with all 5 bags of my stuff and then I get an idea and go from there. I hate being in the spot where I don't have something I need and I left it at home. I spent the day working on Kenedey's stuff. Her scrapbook is kind of lacking compared to Carson's. It's going to be much easier when I can do his after I have planned things digitally, so much of her's from the past is all from when I just had a film camera... oh what a difference 11 years makes! So anyway I have all those pictures to get put in books for her! I need to drag them out tomorrow and show her the pages I got done. I think to keep myself on top of Carson's stuff I am going to be doing more digital scrapbooking for current stuff at least I won't keep getting further behind while I am trying to catch up with myself.
Ok enough ramble from me for one day. Sorry I don't have any pictures to share this weekend. I think I am PMSing so I am not exactly a happy girl tonight. Maybe tomorrow... we will see how the day goes.
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Wednesday, April 9, 2008
Crop Time!
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Tuesday, April 8, 2008
My trip to Florida By Kenedey Carpenter
My trip to Florida was the best i think so far. I love it. For 8 days I stayed in Estero FL. with my Nannie and Papa. A bunch of my cousins, my aunt, and 2 of my uncles were there staying. Gabi and Lillie were the 2 I played with most. Gabi is 13 and Lillie is 11. Gabi, Lillie, and I swam at least 3 times a day. On Wednsday we [ Nannie,Gabi,Lillie,me] went shoping. My Papa gave me $100.00 and my Nannie gave me $100.00. Thankyou Papa and Nannie. We went to so many stores that I cant even name them all. :) For easter my papa got me a pink laptop. I love it. Lillie got yellow. Gabi got Blue. On Thursday we went to see a play called Jesus Christ Superstar. I really liked it. It was very interesting. By the time my trip was over I was glad to get home. Plus when I got home I had to get glasses. I missed my baby Car. But now i wish i was still in Florid at some points. Next timeI go I will take flying lessons. Bye!!
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Back to the norm...
Well, Hutchinson's returned from vacation on Sunday so we are back to our normal schedule. Talan will be here pretty much all the time now while his mom and dad are working. I thought yesterday might be a rough day for him, but it actually ended up being not too bad at all. He was a little clingy in the morning, but as the day went on he settled right in. I took both Carson and Talan outside for a long time. They both LOVE being outside and played really well while they were out there. I am so anxious to have predictable weather where I know it's going to be nice enough to be out there. It's looking like we might even get some snow this coming week. WTH? Not fair!
And just some random pictures from the boys yesterday. I got ice cream for them on our way back from the eye doctor and Talan had his ice cream gone in .05 seconds! That kid LOVES ice cream!!!
Anyone else jealous of Talan's tan?!
The one below is for Talan's grandpa Cork... He was growling!!! His grandpa taught this to him and now he does it ALL.THE.TIME!!!
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Sunday, April 6, 2008
My room
Ok, promise last post tonight. I found this room (HGTV.com) and I really like the feel of it. It has both some masculine properties for the hubby, yet enough style that I feel comfortable there also. What do you think abou the colors? I am putting up 3 for you to see, I like both a lot, you will be able to tell where my color palate is headed!
http://www.hgtv.com/hgtv/dc_design_bedroom/article/0,1793,HGTV_3366_5796657_09,00.html
http://www.hgtv.com/hgtv/dc_design_bedroom/article/0,1793,HGTV_3366_5796657_07,00.html
http://www.hgtv.com/hgtv/dc_design_bedroom/article/0,1793,HGTV_3366_5796657_11,00.html
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Carson's room
So I am SO not into the trendy character thing for decor.... HOWEVER, Carson is absolutely crazy about cars and especially the movie Cars, the characters, etc. He just can't get enough. I am on the search for some way that I can tie Cars movie in for him yet not overwhelm the room with Lightening McQueen and Mater. Although... I think he would be crazy about it even it was overwhelmed with them!
He is still in a crib which is a light oak. His bed is a 3 in 1 where it will convert to a full size bed when he is ready. Right now he has Cars bedding that is a Toddler bed set so I can use that. I guess what I am saying is that bedding is NOT my problem... I need help on wall color and decor!
Cars room 1
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more house thoughts...
I am dreaming about how I want to decorate the new house. Kenedey's room is decided on that theme. I found this look for the main living room, check it out... its on page 34-35. I love everything about it. Where could I find/make something like what is on the walls, for less expensive? Any ideas?
http://www.cb2.com/catalog/viewonline.aspx?catalog_name=CB2Summer2008
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Saturday, April 5, 2008
So when did my kid aquire the world's best sense of style???
Check out what she has found she wants to do her room in!!! LOVE IT!!! She even wants to paint her wall brown! What a stylish little thing she is! Now if I could just afford everything from Pottery Barn. I guess I better get looking at the cheaper ways to replicate this room! Wish us luck! We are on a mission!
http://www.pbteen.com/gift/thm/thmgrl/thmgrlucd/index.cfm
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Friday, April 4, 2008
We survived... BARELY!!
Well, Kenedey is on her way home as we speak! I am so excited to see her! It sounds like she had a wonderful time and even called to ask if she could stay a few extra days. We decided against that since the only flight in on Sunday night didn't get here until after 11pm. She has school Monday morning and just not a good idea to get no sleep.
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